"I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”"

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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#good to know 

unamusedsloth:

Nude Portraits series by photographer Trevor Christensen

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#great ideas 
mega64podcastquotes:

DERRICK: I was just introduced to Chatroulette last night, for the first time, and I talked to two Chinese girls-
ROCCO: Mhmm.
DERRICK: -who said, who called me and my friend Carson “sexy boys,” and said that they would be “glad to do.”
ROCCO: … where do you download this?
[Everyone laughs]
- PODCAST 132

they gave Rocco shit about this for y-e-a-r-s

mega64podcastquotes:

DERRICK: I was just introduced to Chatroulette last night, for the first time, and I talked to two Chinese girls-

ROCCO: Mhmm.

DERRICK: -who said, who called me and my friend Carson “sexy boys,” and said that they would be “glad to do.”

ROCCO: … where do you download this?

[Everyone laughs]

- PODCAST 132

they gave Rocco shit about this for y-e-a-r-s

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@3 weeks ago with 94 notes
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#love it 

fl0wen:

Games Are Dumb And For Kids Episode 7: Billy


one of the best shows on the internet

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@1 month ago with 3 notes
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#me show #yay thanks 

seriously

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#good times 
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"The funniest part of all this is that there’s no answer. The games press is obviously not perfect, but it’s not as if we could swap the current line-up of professionals with the most insightful Reddit and 4chan posters and everything would be glorious and bias-free. The problem is that when people don’t see their own biases or viewpoints reflected in the press, they get unreasonably upset. In truth, no one wants you to be completely unbiased, as that’s usually inescapably dull. They just want you to have their bias. Right now, the general consensus of the games press is to be extremely biased against those who use terms like “White Knight” and “Social Justice Warrior,” often the same people who will harass and threaten and psychologically destroy those in the industry, or often the press themselves. And just because someone has made mistakes, there is never an excuse for that kind of behavior. Not ever. You can say that it wasn’t you posting death threats, and you just want to have a reasonable discussion about the issue (which in this case is someone’s private life). But when you’re posting in the same places as those people, and using all their buzzwords, it should be no surprise when you’re lumped in with them as part of the general hate-filled community."

Forbe’s Paul Tassi reflecting on games journalism and the past week. (via patrickklepek)

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#gamer 4 life lol 
ghostbongweedofthesamurai:

besturlonhere:

shaquilleofeel:

edwad:

which is why ur useless lol

WE”RE NOT AGAINST CAPITALISM, WE”RE AGAINST BRONY CAPITALISM

liberalism is the most morally bankrupt ideology

we are against cobra commander, not cobra itself, which is a fine organization run by reasonable people


just found out I’m not a liberal. I am completely against energy

ghostbongweedofthesamurai:

besturlonhere:

shaquilleofeel:

edwad:

which is why ur useless lol

WE”RE NOT AGAINST CAPITALISM, WE”RE AGAINST BRONY CAPITALISM

liberalism is the most morally bankrupt ideology

we are against cobra commander, not cobra itself, which is a fine organization run by reasonable people

just found out I’m not a liberal. I am completely against energy

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thefreshprinceofjunes:

when people come to ur house and expect to play their own music

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joepancake:

kazy-necrus:

joepancake:

THE CHRONICLES OF REGULAR MAN

I’ve just released that this mod can be everything. Like, the whole game will turn into something very close to these modern fantasy novels where a regular guy from our world suddenly gets in a fantasy world somehow and finds out that only he can save it from the Great Ancient Evil™. That would give Skyrim a whole new interpretation and all, and like that it would be very interesting to play. I mean, for those people who like to actually roleplay in rpgs.

I prefer to think of it more as the most regular drumming man has been teleported to the elder scrolls universe and has no marketable skills besides drumming so he lives in the sewers and eats apples. true RP

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